East, West, Islam, and Matrimony

Marriage is considered a major event in east. It is joining of two families. It is considered a major milestone in a persons life. It is really is big deal. It is a one time event in persons life, without any plane b’s.

And therefore it is celebrated likewise, with full luxuries. And choice of partner is also done carefully.

All of this makes the marriage much harder and a very expensive business. But there is a problem in this deal. Human life and human behaviours often don’t go with this evenly. A person life comes to an end and likewise persons’ attitudes change. This makes the marriage a joke as it is considered a big deal.

So, when a partner dies or there is separation, then it is a disaster. And especially for the woman. It is said that the woman life is destroyed.

Now lets come to west. In west, marriage is a simple event which is important but partners’ lives don’t depend on it. Ages differences between partners is not a big deal. Marrying in much easier. If the marriage comes to an end, woman life is not over.

Interestingly, such is the situation in an Islamic society.

East which contains a major part of muslims, Islam has very little affects on this very important event. But wait a min, is the western system is inherited from Islam? Interestingly, no. But it is somewhat like Islam.

In west, human wisdom plays a great role in society behaviour. In east, customs are followed blindly and without thinking. Customs are followed just because these were followed by ancestors.

On the other hand, in islam, religous rules are followed with belives that these rules are optimum. And human life, society, and relations among humans is a very complex thing and human mind and wisdom can’t cover all aspects. So, here the religion comes for guidance. And Islam made the rules much easier for marriage. But muslims don’t follow these rules.

Hmmm, why?

Because, they value their customs more than Islam….

Please correct me if I am not….

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